Science and Creativity Activities Tue 26th Jan

Recently The Settlement have been involved in an Arts Council funded project which explores the relationship between science, art and creativity. The project focuses upon diatoms; tiny microorganisms found in water, which form beautiful and intriguing shapes. Collecting water samples and looking at these through microscopes can reveal the presence and wonder of these tiny beings.


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Having viewed the diatoms, participants are then asked to create art inspired by what they have seen. We have been involved in the project along with other local families and community groups and it has been fascinating to see what people have come up with. We have made drawings, sculptures and felt pieces, and other groups have made pieces from natural materials and group sculptures.


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As the project is being held at The Settlement this week, we will have the opportunity to get involved during our BB playgroup session this Tuesday 26th Jan. The level is perfect for the BB kids, and parents are encouraged to get involved too. We will be drawing, making sculptures individual pieces based on ideas inspired by the diatoms. We will also be able to look at natural objects and insects through the digital microscope which I’m sure will be fascinating to all.

Looking forward to seeing you there, usual times of 10:30-12:30.

Mothering ~ A Journey of Nurture and Understanding


Mothering ~ A Journey of Nurture and Understanding


When we first think of what it means to be a mother, we immediately think of the care we take of our children. For this is the essence and detail of our work; to love, care and nurture our little ones. And essential to our job is to learn as much as we can about what our children need so we can provide it for them.


This begins early, even in pregnancy, we read about nutrition and exercise and prepare for birth, the external things we can do that we believe are good for our baby, yet whilst our babies are still within our wombs we are also learning about them and their individuality; we learn which positions they are most comfortable, and their patterns of waking, playfulness and sleep.


And so our learning continues once baby is here, and what a steep learning curve this is, and two-fold; we are learning many of the things which are recommended or suggested as being good for babies, and deciding whether or not this seems good for our baby, and we are simultaneously learning about our own baby. We learn through watching, through listening, through feeling with our heart and intuition what ‘feels’ right for our baby, and what doesn’t.


We are growing and learning on so many levels; not just the intellectual level, where we sift through the masses of information, recommendation and advice and try to figure our what is right for us, but we are also growing and developing the muscles of our heart and intuition. We may read both sides of an argument or discussion, but the final decisions, for most of us, are made by what feels right, what feels right for us.




So as much as we are learning about our babies and children, for there is always much to consider and discover, whatever stage they are at, we are also learning a great deal about ourselves. We are discovering how we make decisions, not just intellectually, but from a deeper place, our heart, our gut, our belly. Mothering may be the first time, for many of us, that we become aware of our strong senses of intuition, instinct and inner wisdom. And this may not come to us in grand flashes of awareness, but simply small feelings and nudges to act in one way or another.


We ourselves are learning and growing just as much as our children are, maybe even more so, as we reflect, unlearn and let go of many things we thought we knew, as to make space for what is real and relevant in our lives now. And we are developing the new skills and expanded awareness we need to meet our children where they are now. For me, at the moment this is finding a deeper strength as my youngest is discovering his own inner strength and power and I certainly need to step up if I am to be any match for him! Each child, and each stage and experience is different, so there is always a need for us to reflect and grow.


And just as our children need a safe, protected space to explore and discover themselves, and at the same time to be nurtured and supported, the same is so for ourselves. So as much as mothering is a journey of nurture and understanding of our children, so it is also for ourselves. By recognising our own journey, and understanding our own needs and challenges, we are in a greater position to be able to honour our own journey and provide ourselves with the care, love and nurture we need.




So recognise your own growth gentle mothers, and honour your own journey. Breathe and reflect at your tremendous learning and evolution as you have grown and learned how to be there, with love, for your children.


Honour your own journey through the twists and turns of motherhood as equally cherished and valuable as your children’s childhoods; embrace your learning and your mistakes and hold yourself with forgiveness, acceptance and understanding. Allow the same, fierce unconditional love you shine upon your children to embrace your own journey too.


Be gentle on yourself; you are doing amazing.




Milestones of Motherhood ~ How our own childhood influences our mothering

Milestones of Motherhood

How our own childhood influences our mothering


How does the way in which we were parented influence us as mothers to our own children?


What aspects of our own childhood do we seek to pass on to our own children, and what do we hope to do differently?


If in our own childhood we did not receive great love, nurturing, kindness and understanding how has this impacted upon our lives, and how do we ourselves become mothers to our own children?


These are the types of questions I have been exploring through interviews with mothers who have been reflecting upon their own childhoods and themselves as mothers today.


If as children we were not mothered as optimally as we could have been, we may come to motherhood ourselves unsure and anxious about our own capacity and capabilities to mother our own children. We may fear we cannot love our children, or be good enough, and we may fear we will replicate the pain of our past in our own families.


Through interviews, women reflected upon their own experiences and talked with honesty and tenderness of the journeys they have been on as mothers, coming to terms with their pasts, and creating their own families, day by day.


You see there is something so deeply transformational about becoming a mother; we come face to face with our greatest strength and power, and also our greatest fears and vulnerabilities. Yet as I have found through listening to mothers speak, and indeed my own experiences, motherhood itself has the potential to be profoundly transformational.


We can choose to be different to our own parents, we can create our own families according to our own deeply held beliefs. We can face our own fears and imperfections and grow to become the mothers we know our children deserve.


These are some of the aspects we consciously bring to our growth and evolution. Yet being a mother runs deeper than this and has the potential to transform us from the inside out. Feeling unconditional love for our own children can be life changing, life affirming and also terrifying in equal measures, especially if this has not been the nature of our own childhood. And this unconditional love itself works, like alchemy, on all aspects of our being, bringing many aspects of ourselves up for healing, inviting us to allow love into all aspects of our selves.


Writing this chapter has been deeply moving, inspiring and at times challenging as I have reflected upon the ways in which to hold these deep truths of the human heart, and present them in all their tenderness, power and authenticity. Yet one thing is for sure, whatever our past, and whatever our fears, the love we feel for our children offers us a way forward onto a path which has the potential to bring us to know, so deeply, our own truth, our own power and the depths of our own hearts. I hope that this is one of the messages which readers of ‘Milestones of Motherhood’ feel as they read this chapter.


These are not issues that we often talk about day to day, but if this resonates with you, and you feel you would like to reflect and share your journey with others through my book, you are very welcome to get in touch. You could write about your experiences, or we could arrange to talk over the phone. You can contact me, Clare, on


I will do my best to honour the truth and tenderness of your journey.

Milestones of Motherhood ~ Mosaics of Mothering

Mosaics of Mothering


I am very blessed to have a lovely friend who makes pottery and as a family and at various groups we have spent many a happy hour squidging clay and making our own, albeit rather haphazard, pottery creations. My eldest daughter has taken a particular interest in this and is now confident to recycle her own clay, to make bowls, animals, pots etc and has attended a local clay club.


Recently my friend dropped round a huge box of assorted small and broken tiles along with the simple instructions to make mosaics. (You basically just stick them on with PVA then have the option to grout over them.)

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So early one morning it was decided that we would give the mosaics a try and we enjoyed a happy and relaxing couple of hours picking through the tiles and arranging them to make designs and patterns on pieces of wood.
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This was a really fun and creative thing to do, and was so accessible for all ages and abilities; my 2 year old watched for a little while and then joined in carefully selecting tiles and arranging them to make his own design. My 5 year old had a clear plan of exactly what she would do, and simply selected the right tiles and made her design, and my eldest daughter took the different approach of picking out tiles of similar colours and textures and then taking the time to arrange them in different ways and experiment with what she liked before committing them to glue. I picked out the pieces I liked and then arranged smaller pieces all around them. And the result… Four beautiful mosaics, all individual, unique and colourful which have pride of place on our kitchen shelf.


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As those mosaics have sat in our kitchen and I’ve glanced at them day after day, they’ve reflected back to me much wisdom of life, mothering and family!


For the boxes of small and broken tiles in the beginning were really nothing much at all, and indeed on their own would not amount to a great deal. Yet when we took them, each one by one, held them a little, noticed their colour, shape and texture, we began to see their beauty, and how, when arranging them with other similar pieces, they would, together, become much more than the sum of their simple parts.


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The simple process created a unique, interesting and beautiful piece of art, which each of us had very much enjoyed doing. And it struck me how this can be liked to our days as mothers.


The small, and at times, seemingly insignificant, aspects of our days as mothers can be likened to the little tiles; the many repetitive domestic tasks, the repetitive care of babies, the seemingly constant breastfeeds and broken nights, the holding of little hands, reading stories, and listening to the stories and dramas of our older children, the breakfasts, lunches, packed lunches, picnics and bedtimes, brushing teeth, cuddles and laughter, wiping tears, plastering knees… the list goes on for each of us…


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Yet these are the tiles of our mosaics of motherhood, and although each little tile seems at times unimportant, when we step back and reflect for a moment, we can see just how important each and every one of those little moments are; for it is these tiles which create the overall mosaic of our family life and our children’s childhoods.


And the attitude we take when carrying out these tasks is akin to the glue which holds the pieces together; for it is our love and attitude to mothering, and to our children, which take all of the little  pieces we have chosen and holds them together. And when we step back for a moment, we can see that all the experiences, the magnificent, the difficult and the everyday, somehow come together to create the beautiful and unique artwork which is our family.


Yet there is another way too in which mosaic can reflect our family lives; imagine our family lives as a beautiful piece of colourful ceramic, maybe a bowl, plate or tile, perhaps over time cracks and chips begin to show, or we could just simply drop the plate in a moment of haste – the result is the same; the beautiful thing is shattered into many sharp pieces. We may be shocked, hurt, bewildered, lost or angry; yet with time, the beauty of mosaic offers us a way forward.


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Things are broken, but we are able to look at all of the pieces, and one by one, we are able to begin to pick them up, to examine them, to decide which ones we would like to keep and which are damaged beyond repair. And we are able once again to begin to create a new picture, we can use many of the old pieces, yet now we also have the opportunity to add new pieces, of different colour and texture, and over time, create a new piece. Of course it will look different to how things were before, yet in the transformation, we will learn much about ourselves and our loved ones, their colours and textures, and the different ways of arranging things.


The new picture we create will be different, yet it will have its own beauty, shape and story. I am humbled by just how much we can learn from the simple art of mosaic.


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There is no paint-by-numbers guide, and who knows how things will work out, yet all we must do is lovingly work with each piece, one at a time, day by day, and through this process we build loving, unique and authentic families.


If this process resonates with you, and you would like to share your experiences of change and transformation through mothering I am once again inviting women to contribute to my book-in-the-making Milestones of Motherhood. If this interests you then please do get in touch with me, Clare Cooper, via





Autumn Play Group Sessions

Beautiful Beginnings Play Group Sessions Begin Again for Autumn


Playgroup sessions beginning Tues 6th October 

10:30-12:30 at The Settlement


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Sessions will include sharing ideas for autumn crafts and activities, exploring the garden, free play, sharing our favourite stories and songs.


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Looking forward to seeing everyone there, and new families always welcome.

Milestones of Motherhood ~ Learning to Love


Learning to Love


Writing the chapter First Weeks ~ First Times for Milestones of Motherhood I’ve been thinking a lot about love lately.  About mother-love, and the many ways we as mothers experience love for our babies and children.


One thing is for sure, the stereotype of having a baby, feeling a huge surge of love at first sight and floating happily on our way into motherhood is rarely the full story.


Having had the opportunity to talk to many mothers about their feelings towards their babies and children, and read the written experiences of many more, I have come to realise that one of the most unique aspects of the mothering journey is the way in which we come to love our babies.


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Indeed this gets to the very essence of what Milestones of Motherhood is all about ~ the inner journey of growth and transformation we experience as mothers, and love is surely at the heart of this journey.
We can break down the journey to meeting our baby into the clear, biological stages of pre-conception, conception, the three trimesters of pregnancy, the stages of labour and birth, and the post-postpartum days, weeks and months. Yet our emotions and evolving feelings towards our baby do not have such a blueprint to follow.


For some of us, we love our babies even before conception, and this love grows constantly through pregnancy, culminating in meeting our baby and holding him in our arms after birth.


Yet for many others, our feelings ebb and flow. At times we may feel close to our baby during pregnancy, and connected, and at other times we may feel strange and confused, doubting ourselves as potential mothers and unsure who and what this being is growing beneath our skin. And of course there are those times when we fear we will be dreadful mothers and wonder if really this is the right decision at all. In all truth, love for our child may be the furthest thing from our true experience.


Yet this is something so few of us feel able to talk about, leading to many mothers facing the emotional terrain of pregnancy alone, smiling to say they are fine, unsure how and with whom to share their underlying  feelings.


Our birth experiences too contribute enormously to the beginning of our emotional relationship with our baby. When birth unfolds as we planned, and we feel happy about our experiences, it is easy to see how this good start gives us a helping hand in loving and getting to know our baby. Natural, physiological birth also orchestrates hormonal patterns releasing the cocktail of love hormones which give us the best possible biological start to fall in love with and begin to nurture our baby.


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However birth can also not go as planned, either by nature, or mother. Women can go through great medical intervention which brings her baby into the world, but also leaves many of us feeling severely traumatised, and in a state of shock as we meet our baby and begin our path of learning to be a mother. So many of us begin motherhood with some level of physical, mental and emotional shock and trauma, with some women experiencing Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) as a result of their birth.



Indeed birth itself is such a vast, intense and life changing experience however it takes place, it is fair to say that all women are in some level of shock and adjustment as they have passed through this womanly initiation into motherhood.


As we begin to make sense of our birth and move forward into the early days and weeks with our babies, so too do our feelings begin to make sense of our new position in the world. We are mothers, with a new life to love, care for and nurture. Forever. This is a huge realisation, and as much as we may know it in our heads, to find ourselves living it for real can give rise to feelings of panic, worry and doubt amidst the warm feelings we have for our baby.


Yet love finds its way. For some of us, waves of love roar through us, we have never felt a love so strong and we float through the first hazy weeks in a bubble, tired, but blissful and loving it.


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Yet for others, we know the love is there, sometimes, and we care for our babies as though we love them, but it takes a little longer for these feelings to really be real.


Sometimes the surges of love we experience are so powerful, too powerful and we are overwhelmed. Overwhelmed by the strength of our feelings and the huge dawning realisation of how our life has changed. We can be overawed to just how vulnerable both our little ones, and we ourselves really are.


It is hard to put into words the feelings which some of us experience; when we know love should be there, but we feel, or rather, we don’t, feel it. So many of us go through the early times in a state of shock from birth, and exhaustion from baby care, with a void around our heart space, a discomfort and fear about the lack of feelings we harbour.


Many feel as though we are living each day from behind a screen, an invisible force separating us from the joy and happiness we know we should be feeling. Feeling this is bad enough, and the thought of sharing it terrifying. Yet sharing our feelings and seeking support can bring comfort and relief to know we are not alone, and the future will not be so bleak.


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We learn that all changes with time, and love grows. With time, and with support, our feelings come. As we see our baby responding to us, their eyes meet ours, the flicker of a first smile, their tiny hand grasps ours.


We feel the stirrings of connection and each and every interaction with our baby builds on the one which has gone before it and love grows, slowly, step by step, little by little. It grows, through the days, weeks, months and years we spend getting to know our children. Every journey is different.


Whatever your experiences of loving your babies and children, wherever you are on your mothering journey, be gentle with yourself and accept your feelings. Nurture and care for yourself as you do your children and create a space in your heart for your feelings to grow.


Every woman’s experiences of growing to love her children are unique. Yet by hearing the feelings of others, we know we are not alone, and there is surely no one way to love, and to be a mother.




If you would like to share your own journey of growing to love your children and contribute to Milestones of Motherhood, please do get in touch with me, Clare, via








Book Review ~ ‘Who’s Not In School?’ By Ross Mountney

Book Review

‘Who’s Not In School?’ by Ross Mountney


I couldn’t think of a better book to begin BB book reviews than Ross Mountney’s first children’s book Who’s Not In School?, illustrated by James Robinson and published by Bird’s Nest Books.


Ross is a popular home ed writer and brings much inspiration, common sense and reassurance to home educating families and many others exploring options for their children’s education on her lively blog Ross Mountney’s Notebook


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Who’s Not In School? is a beautifully illustrated children’s story which explores the week of a home schooling family. I smiled when I first heard the title of this book, as like many others who’s children learn outside of school, when out and about my kids are forever being asked that very question ‘who’s not in school today?!’


The story invites us into the life of a family where parents and children spend their days together and everyday family life and learning take place side by side. We are introduced to the youngest member of the family Little Harry, and follow him through his week of explorations and adventures. My children loved his antics and couldn’t wait to see what Little Harry would get up to next. When my older daughters are playing and learning, their little brother is often getting up to Little Harry-like adventures of his own, so we all laughed as we could relate to this.


The illustrations are beautiful, gentle and detailed, and unique in the way that they capture many of the nuances of a home educating home and lifestyle. My children loved the pictures and spent some time on each page studying the details and asking questions.


In the majority of children’s stories, school is seen as the norm, and children who do not go to school can feel a little disconnected, or a little different, as if they on the sidelines looking in and the story doesn’t really apply to them. Indeed this is how they can feel in life sometime too, and this is what makes Who’s Not In School? such a special book, especially for younger children beginning their home ed journey.


The book shares the many daily activities and adventures which will be familiar to home educating families and gives the opportunity to talk about how learning happens throughout the day, day by day.  The most heart-warming thing about the book for me is how home educated kids are at the center of the story and how my own children really related to the book.


I’ll now pass on to my eldest daughter to share her review:


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“This story made me feel happy because lots of other books are about children going to school and people don’t really see my side of life.


I think it’s really good this book has been published so children can read it and learn about home ed. I’ve never read a book about home schooled kids before and it made me feel happy. I loved the pictures and I could read it myself.


I love the bit where Little Harry puts the blocks down the toilet and the other things he does because he is like my little brother. It made me feel really happy and joyful to read it because it is like my life and the pictures are really good.


I’d like another book to be written to hear more about Lucy and Jake because they are more close to my age and they sound really exciting and I want to know more about them. I love the book.


James the illustrator inspired me and made me want to be an illustrator myself when I’m older as I really like the pictures.

I also like it when Little Harry climbs up the slide in the pool and it made me laugh when he was silly in the museum.”


Who’s Not In School? is available from Bird’s Nest Books.


Summer Meet Ups 2015


Beach & Park Summer Meet Ups

Hi Everyone, Apologies for taking some time in getting the details of the BB summer meet ups online.


Last year we took a break from the weekly sessions at The Settlement and enjoyed meeting up out and about at local beaches and parks.




This year we plan to do the same, and have brought together a list of everyone’s favourite places for picnics, paddling, beach combing and bike rides. We are also lucky to have a special session in the second week of September at Harrington Nature Reserve where Nature Detectives leader Emma Jenkinson from Groundwork will lead fun, nature based activities and a tour around the Harrington Reserve. These activities all take place on a Tuesday to keep with the date of the group, but do feel free to suggest additional meet ups and activities on other days and post in the BB Facebook group!


Walks and bike rides all start at 10:30am and beaches at 2:00pm to hopefully coincide with lower tides.


  • Tues 28th July 10:30am ~ Mill Field, Workington

Walk by the stream, playing in the shallow water, looking out for swans, ducks and ducklings, walking up the hill to Curwen Hall and back down through the woods.

From Workington town center, drive down past Marks & Spencer and the police station, as the road bends to the left over Calva bridge heading to Seaton, turn right down the lane just before the bridge. Plenty of parking along the lane. Meet through the little gate on the right near the small stream.


  • Tues 4th Aug 2:00pm ~ Maryport Promenade

Walk or bike ride along the promenade and back for riding bikes along the little tracks and exploring the beach and rock pools.

Head into Maryport and drive down towards the promenade, the road is at the bottom of Shipping Brow by the church which is for sale. Head along the promenade road and meet in the car park on the left.


  • Tues 11th Aug 2:00pm ~ Parton Village

Beach and lovely play park to explore.

Directions tbc


  • Tues 18th Aug 2:00pm ~ St Bees

Beach walk and play park.

From Whitehaven continue into St Bees. Drive through the village and bear right towards the beach. Park in car park and meet on the park.


  • Tues 25th Aug 10:30am ~ Harrington Cycle Track Squirrel Walk

A lovely walk or bike ride along the line. This is a great place to see red squirrels, so bring some nuts to feed them. Its fun to put the food out and then watch the squirrels come and collect the nuts. There’s also a stream for paddling and a picnic…


From Whitehaven driving into Harrington, immediately after the hump back bridge turn right onto a track and park. There is room for about 3 cars, so some of us may need to park on the nearby streets. From Workington turn left immediately before the bridge.

Walk onto the line and walk right going back under the bridge. Stream is on the left a little further down.


  • Tues 1st Sept 10:30am ~ Whinlatter Forest

Play park, forest walks, Gruffalo or Superworm trail followed by picnic or lunch in the cafe.


Access to the forest is free but parking charges apply.


  • Tues 8th September 10:30am ~ Nature Detectives at Harrington Reserve

Nature exploration and creative Nature Detectives activities led by Emma Jenkinson from Groundwork. Walk around the reserve and explore flowers and insects. Emma is lovely and her activities are always great fun we’re so lucky she can do a session for us! 


From Harrington at the traffic lights and junction where you can turn down to the beach, turn right just before the lights, drive up the road and park opposite St Mary’s School. From Workington head to Moor Close sports centre and fire station roundabout and drive down towards Harrington. Again park on the left opposite the primary school.  The reserve is the park opposite the school. Meet in here.


If you have ideas for any additional activities and meet ups on other days, that would be great, post in the BB facebook group.

Nurturing and Protecting Creativity


Nurturing and Protecting Creativity 


Something I’ve been reflecting upon lately is children and creativity. Whilst many of us value creativity as something we would like for our children and ourselves, how does this play out in our day to day lives?


For a while I considered creativity to be linked to art materials and making stuff, which is definitely an element of being creative. I made a conscious effort to have creative time within our days, and I spent lots of time looking for creative activities, art classes and craft projects for us to enjoy.


Yet after reflecting on general day to day life, and especially the times my children are engaged in free play, I’ve come to realise that creativity is not simply limited to making stuff with art materials. It is integral to how we express ourselves in anything and everything that we do. When given the time and space, children do this effortlessly in the pictures they draw, the games they create, the fancy dress costumes they put together and the mud cakes they make and sprinkle with petals.



Watch your children and see how they play. When they have plenty of free time and space to do with what they will, the things they come up with are immense. Relaxed play is the state in which we become creators. We explore ideas, experiment with materials and discover and express a little more of ourselves with the materials we have to hand. This is such a different space  to giving our child materials and telling them what to do with them or attaching learning outcomes, pressure and expectations to a child’s activity.


Some time in the garden saw my little girl create a new home for her friend the snail

Some time in the garden saw my little girl create a new home for her friend the snail


Far from limiting ourselves to perceiving creativity as purely creating things in the context of art or craft, we can widen our horizons and realise that we are innately creative in everything we do.


Yet as a parent one thing I’ve realised it that creativity, and in particular, time and materials available to use, is something which needs our attention. Life gets so busy, with so much to do, and so many places to be. Parenting can come with many anxieties surrounding how well our children are ‘doing’, and what they are learning and achieving. Yet creativity itself is valuable and is something which will nurture and enrich all aspects of our children’s being and development both as children enjoying the moment, and as adults who know what they are capable of and know how to explore, learn, create, make mistakes and create once again.


Prioritise and protect time where your children can simply be; being in their own space and their own time frame, with simple materials they can use as they like. Such space is simple and free, demanding little,  yet is a threatened and endangered commodity in our rushed, scheduled and outcome focused lives.



We do not need to worry about helping our children to be creative – rather we need to become guardians of their time, space and environment to enable their innate creativity to flourish. Giving them the time and space to play as they like, smiling at their role plays, and providing simple materials for them to use as they like enables their creativity to flow. Some quiet time, in their home or garden, with access to materials is all they need.


Access to simple art materials, scissors and tape, cardboard and boxes, paint and glue and a space and plenty of time to use these gives children an invitation to explore and play as they like. We may guide their creations at times, and help them to develop new skills, yet protecting the space for them to create as they like invites them to come up with things far from what we may imagine; through their own creations we see a little more of who they are.



A box, paper, willow catkins and grass became a fairy world from one of my daughter's favourite stories.

A box, paper, willow catkins and grass became a fairy world from one of my daughter’s favourite stories.


I am beginning to understand creativity as exploring and bringing into being our feelings and ideas with the materials we have around us. Our children do this effortlessly, when we protect their space from over-scheduling and prescriptive games, and give them the gift of time, freedom, and simple things to do with what they like.


Yet creativity is not solely the terrain of our children. Don’t limit yourself with the belief you are not creative because you were no good at drawing at school, creating is so much more than this – give yourself too the time and space to explore as you would your child, and begin to express yourself through everything that you do. Read more about discovering our own creativity as mothers in my next post.



Finding Strength and Letting Go in Motherhood

Over the past few months I’ve spent a lot of time corresponding with women who are at various stages of writing about their mothering experiences to contribute to my book-in-the-making Milestones of Motherhood.


As mothers there are so many things which happen in our lives everyday which require our attention before we may find a little time to reflect and write.  Yet along with the busyness there can also be other blocks which come up and seem to make us turn away from looking within and reflecting upon our experiences and our journeys along the mothering path.


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A number of women, both close friends and women many miles away whom I’ve only met through emails, talk of how they began to reflect on their experiences, but soon found that the questions were bringing up memories of difficult times, or emotions from past experiences or situations which were traumatic and painful.


For some women these experiences may go way back to their own childhood. The ways we ourselves were parented contribute greatly to our own experience of motherhood. I will be exploring this issue within Milestones of Motherhood and sharing stories of how women reflect upon their own upbringing and the ways in which they come to terms with and transform these experiences and through a process of self awareness, become the mothers they wish their own children to have.


Another issue many women find difficult to look back upon can be the birth of their child. Birth, however it takes place, is a hugely powerful event in any woman’s life.


The intensity of  birth has the potential to be  hugely empowering if the birth unfolds as the woman hoped, and she feels safe and able to make her own choices. Yet birth also has the potential to leave women feeling traumatised and shocked, especially if they feel they were not active participants in the things which they experienced.




I am currently writing the Birth Chapter which explores women’s experiences around all aspects of pregnancy and birth. One of the things I am finding is, whatever a woman’s experiences of labour and birth, these memories are intense and emotions run deep.


Yet even in the most traumatic and difficult of times, I am hearing women talk of the strength and the courage they have found, and how this strength has become part of them, and brings support to them in other aspects of their mothering. Through birth we can discover just how strong we really can be.


Talking about the birth of her first son, one contributor writes:


“I have been through both the best and the worst  experience of my life and learnt so, so much about myself and my inner strength. I’ve realised just how fragile life is, and how, when life demands, it is possible to rise to any situation if your will and determination are strong enough.”


Motherhood brings many challenges, yet also many opportunities for growth and transformation. Whilst looking back at hard times can be difficult, doing so also gives us the opportunity to love ourselves a little more, to let go, and to bring even more consciousness in the way we hope to mother our own children.


In a way mothering is like craft and alchemy. We are presented with many materials, much of them raw and gritty, many more joyful and cherished. Yet the path is not set, it is up to us how we take the things before us and create the motherhood and the family we hope to be.


If you are interested in reflecting upon your own experiences, growth and learning as a mother, and would like to contribute to the book, I would love to hear from you. Drop me an email on

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